Like Libby said in her comment, our blogs are often quite sanitised. I tell the truth in the posts, but maybe not the "whole truth"...
So some true confessions:
- My house is a mess. It ranges from a bit messy (the type you can say "excuse the mess" if anyone drops over and only feel a bit embarrassed) to 'kick a path through the room' messy (where you feel mortified if anyone drops over). Anyone who knows me personally - please give me notice before you come over :) I've tried heaps of things including Flylady - I've been on Flylady lists from when there were only a couple of hundred people - and everything only works for a short time. Although I do remember a time in 2002 when it was tidy - that's when I was on maternity leave and nesting :)
I've quite recently come to the conclusion that it's unlikely to change - at least in the near future. Housework is obviously not a priority with me or one of the schemes would have clicked. I have a good handle on the laundry, and the dishes get washed on a regular basis, my bed is made every day - as for the mess, well it gets tidied when I can't stand it anymore. It obviously doesn't bother anyone else in the family, and if it does, well, they're quite welcome to clean it themselves... - I'm not a "natural mother". I don't seem to have that mothering instinct that some women do. I don't get clucky around babies, or want to cuddle them when I see them. It's hard work for me. I need a lot of alone time. I don't know how I'd cope if I had another child.
- I'm quite a serious person. I'm not the life of the party. I don't enjoy playing games or being silly. I'm very self-conscious when I do. I do like watching comedy (mainly British) but I'm not into 'Funniest Home video' style or American sitcom humour. I have a very dry sense of humour (almost black) that many people don't get so it stays hidden a lot.
- I think I like reading about gardening and self-sufficiency far more than I like actually doing it. I'm not an outdoors person which kind of makes the gardening bit hard :) I'd prefer to sit down and read a book..
- I've just realised for a blog called 'Kez's Blog' there's not really that much about me in it!
10 comments:
You are so gorgeous! Good on you. I love what I already see and know, so bring on the rest I say!
you are in good company. my house is a mess. in fact if i try to clean my kids and hubby ask who is coming over. i love my kids don't necessarily like other people's. my kids have learned early to be relatively self sufficient and self entertaining. Black Adder and Red Dwarf turned me onto British comedy, many of my local friends just don't get me.
I'm so proud of you Kerrie. You are an inspiration. I think it's great that you can see things like you're natural mother but look at how wonderfully you mother (and teach) Billy but you're smart enough to know that one child to love is enough for you. I think it takes a smart person to see things like this and a brave one to admit it. I am most certainly the hands-on mother I thought I'd be but I can accept that now. I'm also not a real outdoorsy person either.
I don't like mess though - it really stresses me out. I'm a natural tidy person person and have found it hard living with people who aren't so! I do a bit of flylady (still love her podcasts) and a bit of other systems. I think I've VERY close to perfecting something that is right for ME!! That's the key - it's all you each of us and our families. If you all don't mind the mess then don't worry about it.
Besides the mess thing we actually VERY alike, even down to our sense of humour - prob. why we get along so well :-).
Libby
I can relate to every part of this post! Totally me too. :) Re the garden thing. I find myself *wanting* to do the gardening but actually sit outside with a book looking at the garden lol. Maybe that's why everyone else I know has a garden fully producing stuff now and mine's sad in comparison!
Kez, I'm very like that .. dark witt especially ;) I don't have so much mess these days, mainly because I went NUTS and threw out/donated anything that I didn't use regularly because I got tired of having to pick it up or dig through it! (to find things I DID use regularly ;) Flylady and all never did much for me either ;) I'll be sure to give ample notice if we ever plan to drop by hehehe
You're lovely as you are, and thanks for sharing more about yourself! You know I can't write a short answer to anything, so I wrote a blog entry on similar lines!
I could have written your first two points. :o) I'm not really good with babies. I think it shocked my family when I admitted it, but just as some of us are dog or cat people, some of us are baby or kid people. I'm definitely a kid person. And a cat person. Maybe there's a relationship there!
Anyway, I spent years trying to live up to everyone's expectations and being pretty depressed. It's when I started to stop taking myself seriously that I think I became a better person and a better mom. Plus my kids grew out of the toddler years. ;o)
Peace and Laughter,
Cristina
Great post! I know all about the messy lifestyle. I moved to a place where people pop by for tea (uninvited and spur of the moment!!) and had panic attacks for a year, lol. I try to keep it at 'please excuse the mess' but right now I am at 'for the love of Moses, do not let anyone in the house!'
i just visited your site from simply mother and when i read this i thought i was reading about myself.
one difference: I LOOOOOVE babies.
I'm so pleased to see I've inspired a few other bloggers to post some 'real truths'. Here's to reality!!
I feel like Sally Field - "you like me, you really like me" :)
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