Wait, I don't think he's been alive that many days :) Oh well, it seems like it!
I've had enough of the pig sty that passes as his bedroom.
I've had enough of buying him stuff every time we go out (usually craft stuff that then gets shoved into a cupboard - or onto the floor) - because I'm weak and can't say no.
Because he has so much stuff, he doesn't take care of any of it. While we were away he lost a (cheapish) hand-held video game that my mum gave him - we remember last seeing it when he took it into a cafe for lunch, so presumably the next customer got a good treat! He begged us for another one but we told him he has to buy it himself.
I've tried confiscating - but he has so much that it doesn't seem to affect him; with-holding treats - but he doesn't seem to care etc etc etc but I don't follow through with them so of course they fail.
I always had the belief that he should do things like keep his room tidy just because he's part of the family, without expecting a reward - well, that obviously doesn't work..
So... pocket money begins... with a star chart above his bed to mark off each day. At this stage the only thing I have on there is to keep his room tidy. Once he masters that (ha ha) I'll try adding other things one at a time.
Putting it above his bed will force me to see it every night, so hopefully I'll keep enforcing it.
He'll have his own money so I won't keep feeling obliged to buy him stuff.
$2/week pocket money is probably less than I spend on stuff for him anyway!
Maybe if he buys stuff himself he'll start to learn to take care of it - especially if he's had to save up for it.
It all sounds good in theory - right??! Please tell me it will work!